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Whenever we approach a new year, it is common to do so with both excitement and anxiety. I will notice in myself that these two emotions are associated with what I know, as well as what I don't know, about the upcoming year. This makes sense. If one definition of anxiety is "fear of the unknown future", could we also not be excited about the same? After all, fear and excitement often show up together.

Currently, clients in my office report more anxiety than excitement about the coming year. In many cases, this anxiety is a reaction to what is happening politically in the country--people are worried about our future as a nation! It is my job to balance the line between having empathy for their suffering, while not siding with one perspective or another. Therapists are encouraged to not be biased in the room, but I do think we have a duty to advocate for what is best for our clients.

What this means is that rather than join my clients in their perspective, I explore how it is working for them, and if it causes them suffering, we work to lessen the suffering. This can be done in a number of ways, but there are a couple approaches I like to use:

• changing the story you have about what is happening (how you think about it)
• changing your relationship to what is happening (how you feel about it)

I favor these approaches because they allow us to work with what is under our control to change, in other words, how we think, feel, or experience what is happening. Let's explore why this can be helpful.

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