The meaning of Thanksgiving has changed over the years, with people deciding that the original meaning no longer resonates with them, especially in 2020. So what is it about this year? You get to decide. For some people, Thanksgiving is put on hold this year entirely, for others, it is a smaller version of what they most love about it. But for most, it is still an opportunity to reflect on what we are grateful for, and this year that element more challenging than other years. 

What are we thankful for in 2020? Well, as I wrote above, you get to decide! But let me suggest that we can find something to be thankful for even in the most difficult of times--it just requires that we look a little deeper into the meaning of things. Perhaps the COVID pandemic has resulted in you connecting more with friends and family rather than just following them on social media. Perhaps it has given you more time to be "quiet", more time with loved ones, more time for yourself. Perhaps it has given you a new appreciation for your health and for life. Perhaps it has given you a chance to finally confront your deepest fears and change your relationship to them. 

Regardless of whether you choose something to be grateful for or not, I wish you a Thanksgiving holiday that fulfills what you need right now. And I want to express my appreciation to all the individuals who have trusted me to explore their hopes, their fears, their sorrows, their dreams; to all the couples who have given me the privilege of challenging them to connect through vulnerability and empathy for each other. This work is sacred to me, and I am thankful for each and every one of you who come into my office, whether in person or via video. 

This Thanksgiving, this most unusual Thanksgiving, I wish you all a celebration that stands out from all the other years, one that you will look back on fondly, and one that may influence how you celebrate the holiday in upcoming years. 

With warmth and fondness,

Tony